Thank You For That
Here I am again on the doorstep of a life house full of dust and decorated with tasteless broken windows. It’s cold and warm, its dark and bright, it’s uncomfortable at times but it is my house with its rotten foundations and hidden alcoves and I thank you for that.
Its maybe imperceptible from the outside but I am broken over you, yet I am still standing. Trying hesitantly to make sense of this, I am asking myself reluctantly where should I start.
Who should I thank for that
Sept 2006, I am sitting on a marketing flight heading to Moscow, I flew from Dublin to Paris before boarding a plane half full in the direction of the Russian Confederation capital. I had been in Paris two weeks prior actually staying one week longer than originally planned, you don’t plan death, do you? I was meant to go back to Ireland that Sunday but you died of a heart attack in the middle of a Saturday night, I had had a good track record at saving your life until then but it was not meant to be that night and I had to let you go.
Music is an integral part of my life and travelling is always a great opportunity to revisit tunes and other personal anthems that have accompanied me thru the various milestones of my life. I know I have been particularly obsessed by two tracks the last ten years.
Staring at the clouds thru the Boeing window with my headset firmly sitting on my head I finally gave in when the first notes took over my mind, the same one that had appeared to be so composed and so solid up to that point.
There was no way I could or wanted to stop the sea of tears flooding the emotional wreck I had become even though I had refused to come to terms with it.
I finally reached Moscow, checked in a four-star hotel and as I often do, I went for a big stroll thru the city. I found myself walking for hours and ended up in the red square, the Kremlin was inquisitively looking at me when I noticed a crow sitting on a steel bollard. I got closer and was expecting the bird to take off but against all odds he was the one looking at me, his gaze was intense but soft and considering me.... his eyes were on me….
I am not mystical neither I believe in ghosts whether they are holy or not let alone their reincarnation, but that evening I swear my father tried to connect…
Our relation had become complicated, we had settled for a status quo I suppose and fair to say he had spent the last 20 years of his life trying to make amends, it was probably impossible and albeit very difficult to fix a ship wreck, what is broken is broken right? I should have parked my anger long before he passed away, I should have not given up on him, I should have told him that it did not matter, that I understood and that I forgave him. I know now that it is OK to stumble and fall.
To this day I cannot listen to the following tune without being transported immediately back to the Red Square and be confronted to too many what if questions.
But beyond those two obsessive tunes, I have come to understand that the most precious memory I have if any is this iconic photo of my ten months old son sitting joyfully on his proud and smiley grandfather eight days before he passed away.
I am very sorry I could not get to you dad and that I have never had the opportunity to say
THANK YOU FOR THAT
Sources
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O87shD-FpvU
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=537v5Avw_mU
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Comments
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #44
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #43
Cyndi wilkins
7 years ago #42
Thanks Deb Helfrich...You are absolutely correct...It is all that occurs while leading up to that "final moment" that is so exhausting...Physically and emotionally...In the end, my hope is for all of us to be at peace with it...
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #41
wow, hmm, ah.... not sure how to answer that one Cyndi wilkins maybe Thank you for that is appropriate :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #40
sometimes it is best not to stir .....it is what is may be the best option for all parties who knows Ken Boddie :-)
Cyndi wilkins
7 years ago #39
Ken Boddie
7 years ago #38
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #37
ahhh you a very generous sharing this Joanna Hofman thank you for that....
Mamen 🐝 Delgado
7 years ago #36
Woww Joanna Hofman... I send you a huge warm hug from Madrid, and you still have him to spend at least a few days every now and then with him. All my love with you and with him. 💞
Lisa Gallagher
7 years ago #35
Good analogy Aurorasa Sima, never forgotten- many lessons we learn from those who were so ill. My husbands parents divorced when he was 11 and his mom had a break down when he was 15, my husband lived with his sister and brother for a year, then moved in with an older sister who had drug addiction problems. He finally got his own place when he was 17. He told me before we married, marriage is for life and I have to say, he was and still is an such an awesome father who's been loving and a great influence on both of our children. He broke that pattern!
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #34
I did Lisa Gallagher :-) forgiven but I have not forgotten :-) many thanks for sharing your side of the story much appreciated
Lisa Gallagher
7 years ago #33
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #32
aha :-) its out there now indeed :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #31
thanks Milos Djukic, indeed I am not overly inhibited when it comes to share emotions funny when you think I am not overly extrovert somebody told me I was hybrid whatever that means .... :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #30
ah thanks :-) writing it was pretty easy in a way :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #29
many thanks Deb Helfrich life ain;t easy, it is just my story many many people got to deal with terrible ordeals, this love thing is a complicated thingie :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #28
thanks for sharing this Jena, alcohol had also been a denominator for a while and then he became a reformed alcoholic but the scars were so deep that I had always remained on the fence
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #27
thanks Dean Owen .... ditto :-)
Dean Owen
7 years ago #26
Mohammed Abdul Jawad
7 years ago #25
Milos Djukic
7 years ago #24
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #23
thanks Donna-Luisa Eversley indeed time or the idea of time maybe either way it is a slow process to completion :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #22
thanks Steven Steven Brooks this indeed is proabably something I understood only very recently and the reason behind this post :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #21
life is complicated at best Don Don Kerr yet you have a great taste in music :-) thank you for that :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #20
Merci Laurent :-) Nice comment :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #19
ah thank you Aaron Aaron Skogen for your indefectible support ::-) appreciate the share much obliged :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #18
Thanks Harvey for sharing your story :-) Not easy to share and this is much appreciated
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #17
many thanks Paul \ for the comment and the share Much obliged :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #16
hmm indeed Lisa Gallagher it has been a tortuous journey :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #15
Julie Hickman thank you for that :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #14
Thanks Mark Anthony I am not sure stuff are always fully or anyway resolved I thought that it was about time to settle the accounts :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #13
thanks Franci Eugenia Hoffman I realized it had been a struggle when I was younger and it was about time to get the record straight :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #12
Jena Thank you for that :-)
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #11
many thanks Kevin Pashuk finally running full circle after some bumpy rides :-)
Kevin Pashuk
7 years ago #10
Lisa Gallagher
7 years ago #9
don kerr
7 years ago #8
don kerr
7 years ago #7
don kerr
7 years ago #6
Laurent Boscherini
7 years ago #5
Harvey Lloyd
7 years ago #4
Pascal Derrien
7 years ago #3
thanks Mamen Delgado , had to be done I suppose :-)
Mamen 🐝 Delgado
7 years ago #2
Mamen 🐝 Delgado
7 years ago #1